Thanks bishop for helping me see the big picture in regards to this.
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Letters to the Bishop!
Bishop:
After reading your Bishop Speaks columns over the last several weeks, in regards to dead and draining weight, I finally had a talk with my son and his wife and asked them to “step up or move out.” I told my son, who is twenty one years old, that he was not ready to marry the girl he is with now but they went downtown and got married anyway because he is the father of the child she had three months ago. When he married her, and she’s nineteen years old, he had no job and she just got a job last week working at McDonald’s. After they got married, her mother made her, their baby, and my son get out of her place. Well, I felt since the girl’s mother let them stay there at her place for a few months, I could at least let them stay with me for a few weeks. That was not a good move. Since they have been with me, it’s been a nightmare. She never goes to work. My son sleeps all day and the baby cries all day and all night. On my fixed income, I’ve been buying baby food as well as food for the house so everybody can eat. I had enough!
They are not only DEAD and DRAINING WEIGHT, but my home is not the quiet home I’m used to since my husband passed away a year ago. Bishop, letting them move in with me was an emotional choice, not looking at all the facts and now I’ve asked them to leave. The girl and their baby is going back to live with her mother and I’ve put my son out already. He found some other girl to live with instead of go get a job and get his self together. I told him he could stay if he left out every morning looking for work but he said he’d leave instead. He really helped me make up my mind even faster to put him out.
It was your columns, Bishop, with prayer and putting my plan into action, that made this happen. I’m now enjoying a quiet home and I want to tell other grandparents to not let their children use the grandchildren to get in the door because it’s hard to have to deal with putting DEAD and DRAINING WEIGHT OUT THE DOOR. Now, I go visit the grandbaby and come back home.
Didn’t have a question, bishop. I just wanted to share this with you and others hoping it might help. As always your, Bishop Speaks Columns are real.
Bishop:
My husband lost his job two years ago and is still looking for steady work but can’t seem to find any work to do. I think his age may have a lot to do with getting a job also since he’s fifty-three years old.
My problem is that out of seven days in a week, bishop, he only goes looking for a job maybe once a week. I work 24/7 to keep all the bills paid, feed him after work, fix him breakfast before work and, most of the day, he’s sleeping while I’m at work.
Bishop, he is content at this point being DEAD WEIGHT and it’s DRAINING ME. I’m usually happy and in a positive attitude all the time but the last few months I’m angry and give him lots of attitude.
How do you deal with a husband who is DEAD WEIGHT? I’ve tried talking to him but he says, “If I can’t find a job, what am I suppose to do?”
Bishop, I just can’t continue to pay all these bills while he sits around doing nothing. I’ll call the church bishop and hopefully I can set up a counseling session for the both of us. We don’t belong to any church right now so I hope you can help us because I don’t want to give up on the marriage but it’s not a marriage if we’re not on the same page and him pulling his weight as a husband.
Bishop:
I’m twenty two years old and, after reading your Bishop Speaks columns the past several weeks, I decided to not let my sister and her boyfriend move in with me until they get on their feet. I work and have a two bedroom apartment and told my sister she could but when she said her boyfriend had no place to go I had no problem telling her she nor him could not move with me. Bishop, she’s a first year college student and he didn’t even complete high school and he’s not even working. He gets a $200 food card and she told me that would help with the food if they moved in.
After reading your columns in regards to Dead Weight, I looked at the big picture and realized that would have been a bad move in every way, shape, and form. My sister is angry at me but I think it’s better than me being angry at the both of them if they moved in with me and would be more than draining and DEAD weight, but other problems as well.
Thanks bishop for helping me see the big picture in regards to this.
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